Am I being played?

Relationships are beautiful. Falling in love is a gift. Waking up in the loved ones arms is the biggest achievement. But there is an other side too.

My awesome  shortest 1 Week Relationship.

Day 2, He goes, "Oh baby!! I Love You"
Day 3, He calls me as his Girl Friend and introduce me to his friends with that title.
Day 4, He says "I am falling in Love"
Day 5, No Text No Call
Day 6, He goes" We should probably JUST be friends"

Now the questions comes, Am I being played? Honestly, I don't know. May be Yes, May be No. Reason being, Love happens in a day or a split second but the way you show it right to your partner takes time. A person who can't figure out what he/ she wants for a very long time is definitely incapable of knowing his/ her own emotions. They want love but are scared to fall and be in one.  They can't control their emotions, they spit out their past but feel embarrassed later. When a person comes along and your heart beats different, you try but get lost in the confusion. There may or may not be a bunch of nice nights and then concludes saying "Let's be friends"

Things might go wrong or things might become more clear!! But "Am I being played?" is just a phrase that we raise to ourselves, convince ourselves saying "Yes" and take it as a reason to blame on the other and Move On.

A relationship is a mutual consent, it might last for a week, a month, a year or forever!! Its just the luck!!

As long as you are not forced to do something that you don't want to, you were never played!!

How To Move On?

As a Motivational Speaker, this is my all time favorite. I saw people suffer, depressed and kill themselves (at least try to) because they don't know how to move on.

Well, No matter who agrees or disagrees I believe in few facts and kept in practice and had a huge success.

Let me start this by telling you a story, a real one.

One of my cousin's passed away few years back at the age of 16. Entire family was sad and depressed. But none killed themselves or stopped living their lives. I didn't either. I used to think about her before going to bed, used to have bad dreams for a while. But that's all. I moved on like everyone else. After few years of this incident, I broke up my 15 year relationship and what did I do? I moved on just like the way my cousin's mommy daddy did. Breaking up with a person is not too bad when compared to death. Well, I moved on and I am alive, fit, happy and healthy and I am here advising people and making difference.

Now, How to move on?

Wicked Smile Friends!! Though my advises are weird, they definitely works real time.

1. Move on just like the way you go shop for replacing your favorite brand of shoes or a dress. You might not find the exact same, but you will definitely find a better one.

2. Move on chasing dreams that you weren't able to achieve when you were in the relationship. It makes you sleep with a smile and confidence.

3. Move on realizing the fact that there are millions of good looking and successful people in the world who are ready to rock your world.

4. Move on feeling happy that you are still alive and world is waiting for you to get out of the box.

5. Move on being positive, being awesome!!

I know its not as simple as they sound. But I have other options too.

1. Text back someone who was interested in you but you ignored in the past.

2. Have a glass of wine, play some music, dance, cry and go to bed. Repeat!! Till you feel better!!

3. Hangout with strangers and share few laughs but never mention about your stupid breakup. No one really cares!!

4. Compare yourself with that "Ex", make a list of your wins and his/her failures and feel awesome about that.

5. Call your friends and tell them you need a replacement.


P.S : Don't ask me any questions on this post though. Rules are not meant to be explained or clarified!!

Do I Belong Here?

Most common question I raise to myself is "Do I belong here?" And all the times it makes me throw away from the people I truly like. Well, my friend, that's life!!

 Its better to run away or hide  from few as soon as you have that question "Do I Belong Here?"

What do you mean by "Do I belong here?"
I am not talking about the status or life style or beauty or moral. I am only talking about the heart.

I know way too many people, I'm one of them, who push themselves to Fit In but end up with no success. Its okay to have few sleepless and depressed nights instead of sleeping and waking up feeling miserable.

When you know "You don't belong there" no question, you just don't.

When you say I will try to fit in, believe it or not "You can't do it forever"!!

"Being Real" is more important than faking it up.

You don't belong wherever you heart isn't. If you heart says Yes, change other factors. If its says No, change your companionship.